1 Thing You Need to Create a Home You Love

HOME frontLast week I was at a friend’s house for brunch. As her circle of friends settled in and got acquainted, one woman (whom I’ll call Kellie,) complimented the hostess on her cozy home.

“It feels so relaxing and welcoming,” Kellie sighed. “I wish I could make my home feel like this, but I just can’t seem to find the time. I work all day, come home to make dinner, help my daughter with homework, make lunches, and suddenly it’s bedtime. I don’t know why I can’t just move it forward.”

As I listened, I could see one big reason why she couldn’t “move it forward.” She’s BUSY! Being a committed professional, dedicated parent, and family chef takes a tremendous amount of time and energy – a lot more than we give ourselves credit for.

Still, I heard her sentiment loud-and-clear: she has a strong yearning for a home that reflects who she is and what’s important to her. She wants to change her experience from “my house is fine” to “I love my home.”

Later that day, I couldn’t stop thinking about Kellie’s frustration and her desire to create her own special corner of the world through her home.

Here’s what I want to say to her and anyone else in this situation:

Creating a home you love is easier than you think. Making the transformation from “just fine” to “LOVE IT” with your home doesn’t have to take a lot of time or money. In fact, it takes just 3 simple ingredients:

1. Get clear on your intent.
2. Start with things you already own that please you.
3. Optimize the energy flow.

Today I want to talk about #1, Get Clear on Your Intent, because it’s the KEY ingredient. When I work with clients, helping them identify 2-3 intentions for their home is one of my favorite parts of the transformation process. I love helping them excavate what they truly want for their lives at this point in time. Even when they may not have an immediate answer, something real and true always emerges in our conversation.

And although the answers I hear are unique, everyone’s intentions share a universal trait — they are heartfelt and spark an expansive feeling of “yes, that’s it!”

Here are a few sample intentions from my clients:

• “Our kids are growing up so fast. I want to create a home that helps us stay connected as a family.”

• “My husband’s health is declining, and I want our home to feel positive and joyful, now more than ever.”

• “I want to create a home that connects me with nature and community. I don’t want to feel isolated like I did in my last home.”

• “I’m getting married and want to set up our home for a happy, abundant life together.”

Starting with the key ingredient – get clear on your intent – is critical, because it connects you to your heart, unlocks your intrinsic motivation, and fuels action.

Trust me on this – once you identify your intention/s, you miraculously have an abundance of time and energy. I’ve seen this again and again with my clients and myself. It’s surprising what you can accomplish when fueled by the bountiful energy of your focused intention.

Try it and see.
What feeling do you want to create in your home? Take a moment to listen to your heart, then craft it as an intention. Next, what is one small step you could take today to get you on your way?

Where intention goes, energy flows.®

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